The changing dynamics of society has put in front of us some questions which ought to be given valid thoughts , as in a recent discussion we as friends sitting in a café were having regarding the void which have now got created in the families – more so with everybody’s aspirations and fast pace of life, the apertures have become more visible in relationships.
We were set of 5 gentlemen
sitting on a coffee table, discussing about our situations and quirks of life
to which we all get exposed every day and the general chit-chat speared around
the topic of falling relationships.
The oldest amongst us was ‘Sharma
Uncle” who is quite revered in our block and has lived his life in all success –
having a closely knit family living in togetherness, though a rare feat now a
days!
He suddenly started to swear on the reason for broken families and failing relationships – to him there was a difference between a contact and a connection that we have made in our relationships.
To this, my friend “Amit” who quite
jokingly put forth his question to him “Sharmaji, what is the different
between a ‘Contact’ and ‘Connection’?”
Sharmaji began and started to
explain, quite beautifully the difference between a ‘contact’ and a ‘connection’
to bridge the gap between faltering relationships. He thus asked a series of
question to Amit sitting on the table.
"Do
you talk to your father?", the uncle asked the young pal.
My friend, a CA
working in one of the big 4 accounting firm in pune(but now working from home
in Delhi due to pandemic) looked visibly annoyed...
The second
question was fast as there was no answer by him “When did you talk to him
last?"
My friend thus suppressing
his annoyance answered: "May be a month ago."
The uncle was quick
to respond and thus asked “How many brothers and sisters are you?”
The young man reacted
with his eyebrows raised and answered, “2 brothers and 1 Sister.”
The uncle
throwed his volley again “Do your brothers and sisters meet often? When
did you meet last as a family gathering?"
At this point, the
young professional sensed that he is being interviewed but responded "We
met last at festival two years ago."
Now the uncle
quite laughingly asked my friend: "How many days did you all stay
together?"
To this question,
my friend kept mum for a second and responded “"Three days..."
As the uncle
was asking back to back questions, I started to get the pointers as to what he
is trying to dig, but as the conversation was turning quite interesting, I preferred
not to intervene!
The next
question thus was "How much time did you spend with your Father and
mother, sitting right beside him?"
My friend was not
in a mood to answer this one as he got the signal as to what was going on – may
be he got in somber mood as he told uncle that “ My mother is no more!”
Then there was
the final nail in the coffin, after apologizing to my friend after he got to
know about the loss of his mother, the old chap questioned him again “Ok
son, do you have breakfast, lunch or dinner together? Did you ask how he was?
Did you ask how his days are passing after your mother's death?"
Drops of tears
started to flow from the eyes of my friend – as I could see that he had gone in
the past and flash memories of his mother came visiting him!
At that very moment, something unexpected happened, the uncle came forward and held the hand of my friend and said: "Beta, don’t be embarrassed, upset or sad. I am sorry if I have hurt you unknowingly... But this is basically the answer to your question about "Contact and Connection." You have 'Contact' with your father, but you don't have 'Connection' with him. You are not connected to him. Connection is between heart and heart... Sitting together, sharing meals and caring for each other, touching, shaking hands, having eye contact, spending some time together... All your brothers and sisters have 'Contact' but no ‘Connection' with each other..."
After these words
of wisdom, there was a just one sound on the table – the ‘Sound of Silence’ –
we all went into a silence mode and started to give deep thought to what we had
just heard!
After a few
seconds, my friend showed his gratification towards the old man on what he was
taught in past few moments, “ Uncleji, thanks very much, today you taught me a
life valuable lesson which I will surely keep in mind!”
This small incidence that happened on that table showcases the stark reality of today – Whether at home or in the society everybody has lots of contacts but there is no connection. Everybody is busy in his or her own world. …Let us not maintain just "Contacts" but let us remain "Connected." Caring, Sharing and Spending time with all our dear ones and live life in a playful mood as if there would be no tomorrow!
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