“Money is boring” – the word echoed in my ears from a stalwart who is in the US for more than 3 decades and he is a close relative who once had the dream run to make it big in the land of opportunities and to live the ‘American Dream’. Now that he has aged and is expecting an early retirement from the daily chores of his living, he stated this incredible line which made me pay attention to his state of mind.
No wonder many of us still
believe in the dichotomy of living in our country – lovingly or not, but still
thinking of going abroad for greener pastures – an average Indian honestly thinks
so- as there are many follies that decimate our standard of living – be it the
social overhead capital or the infrastructure as we call it or the health
facilities and love for one country, we know where we stand.
Not likely – the gentleman who is
the subject of my writing today has had an overwhelming life in worlds strongest
nation and one may presume him to live a life of dignity and honour – but not
the way it is perceived to be. The gentleman after completing his college education
in India tried his luck in higher education in foreign land and was lucky
enough to get into a management college in Chicago – and soon landed a job for
himself in one of the prestigious management consultancy firm – as further luck
shined on him, he was able to find a girl of his choice and soon got married
with his parents affirmation – so far so good, then came the most remarkable moment
of his life – his separation from his wife, who live with him for just one year
and didn’t find him to by her type of husband – so suitable as it was, both got
separated but not divorced and since then he has been living a private life
full of self-discipline and loneliness.
As he laughingly says “ I only
have one thing dear, and that is Money, no love and nothing that I can boast of
as a relationship.” – as he is entering septuagenarian age, he is planning to
come back and settle in Gurgoan but it seems to be tough as still according to
him, the Indian way of life is not his cup of tea.
His advice and deep observation
of life was well entrenched and pointing to the situation that he himself had
faced overseas – the blind love of moolah
certainly took him too far off from his personal choice of love and
care, which he might though of taking it for granted, but life did had a certain
plan for him for the choice he made.
This profound conversation with
him today made me feel a little pity for the man I knew for so long – his love
lost story certainly deserved a patient hearing for he must not be having
anyone to spare such a time for the man who once came to America with a dreamy
eyes and a go getter attitude – but now life has come a full circle for him –
and it is only his memories which would be his greatest partner he would ever
cherish whilst he lives each day….