What happens when you strike a chord with a friend you had played with as a teenager and had a gala time doing all sorts of stupid things for which you were severely reprimanded. You were always partner’s in crime and used to loiter in the streets for hours!
Time stands still to a point
where the memories of your last meeting to say a final goodbye flashes on your
mind. It just happened the other day when I met my old pal ‘Sobi’ as we had
nicknamed him. He was an exceptional cricket player and every captain’s choice –
though he
I met Sobi after almost two odd
decades as he had moved out of our neighborhood to Gurgoan, a choice his
parents made – call it clairvoyance or just an instinctive decision, he did his
schooling and went to the prestigious institute - BITS Pilani for his engineering
degree. I had lost count of the numerous letters he used to write to me from
there – the only mode of communication till mid 1990’s!
Today I just bumped into him,
though on face of it he had changed a lot, but his clarion call of my name made
me turn heads and recognize him instantaneously! We exchanged initial pleasantries
and asked for each other’s wellbeing and that of the family to which he said
that “Papa and Mom are no more and rest all is Ok!”
As I asked him as to what he does for a living- I guess his chest swelled to certain inches as his proud moment had come - his quick reply was that he was working as a director with one of the top IT firms in NCR and was quite handsomely paid – a stark revelation to what I always thought he would be a good cricketer as he had a massive support from his parents!
But as they say, life is full of
serendipity and what you think or decide can be turned around any moment, this happened
with my friend as well and he became a technocrat.
As our conversation progressed, we
talked about our family – wife and kids and that was a point at which suddenly
his face went bust! – I was perplexed on the sudden change of his mood as it
had turned somber on my asking him about his wife and kids – presuming him to
be married and nicely settled at this age of his life!
He tried to avoid the topic and reciprocated
my question and started to ask about my parents and wife and kids – I took this
as an exception and told him about my life, kids and family!
His poignant looks made me
believe that he surely had a story to tell, though his reluctance was quite
evident – but suddenly, he started to speak in a low tone about his family – he
had lost both of his parents and he was married and had two kids – a son aged
15 and a daughter aged 12 and studying in a prestigious school in Gurgoan but
he was now separated from his family, though not divorced!!!
This stark expose kept me mum and
I was not in a position to ask him the all important question “Why and how did
this happen?” but he sensed my next obvious question and said that it is the
peril of the profile and the position I carried !!! I was always engrossed in my
office – working 14-18 hours a day just to prove my competency and move up the
corporate ladder!
Now that he had made the choice,
he had to forgo some ‘Goodies’ of life which he started to miss – a sentiment
he shared with me in equal measure. He told me that he was on the brink of
early retirement and was trying to mend his ways and make pact with his estranged
wife, but the effort was not successful till date. I advised him to carry on and
keep on trying till the last day of your life!
A lesson learnt though this short
meeting was that When Serendipity strikes make the most of it – Your parents,
wife and kids are part of this design and all of you met under no normal circumstances
or a matter of coincidence – but a part of a mega design – make the most of it
as you will not be in control of your life long after they are gone!
I wished my friend all the best
and shared my phone # or any assistance of help that I might provide – to which
he expressed his heartfelt obligation and said “ Sanjeev – our young days were
so beautiful – no tension and no responsibilities, and I promise to be in touch
from now on!” – a stark fact in times which we now live!