Death wont do us Apart

 

“Kal kisne Dekha ? “ [who has seen tommrow?] this was always his mantra of life and he truly lived by it – Manoj is no more today but what was his steadfast resolution he lived by it – Always !

He died in his sleep may be due to a silent heart attack – may be he had premonitions so he had started to talk on a different tangent altogether – he was fit and fine and had no major ailments but as luck would betray us all one day – the calling will be “final” and we all have to obey it honestly – no escape! 

Manoj was a lovely friend and always chirpy and would crack jokes on life’s situations- as if for him life was just a dream to be lived and one day when you will “Wake” up in true sense – you would be gone – for him, there was no God and he was a total Athiest – life was a beautiful coincidence which just happened on this planet .. “ There would certainly be other dimensions and parallel universes which would have formed via the same coincidences, but science would take generations to unearth the enigma!”  - he would always parrot these lines…. 

I loved his sincere thoughts and clear thinking about his living on this planet – no frills involved a simple life and no greed for money or Power… Life, as he kept so simple was a true embodiment of a “Wordly Saint!” as I would call him always, as we always joked on this topic!

For him “ Life is beautiful till you make it one…there are zillion problems that one would face every now and then and you have to steer your ship of family, finance, health, relationship through the best possible turmoil – But somehow you will have that faith on yourself that You always Will!

My major confrontation with Manoj was with relation to ‘GOD’ and His Existence – he was clear in his thinking about this – for him all the events in this world – where kids are dying and people are suffering – is GOD making them suffer ?? – IF yes, then why were they born at first place – just to Suffer and live in penury , born blind or with no Arms and Legs…. And with All sorts of bodily Ailments…??? 

Does God want his ‘Puppet Kids” to remain like this and make him Happy??? – to this argument, I would always say “ Manoj – It is due to one’s Karma” – he used to quickly revert then “Do Good Karma – why believe in his existence…even if Exists in an iota , he would have to abide by his rules and have to thus honor his creation – why pray for mercy?”

The argument used to go in a vicious cycle with no end or conclusion – now that he is gone, his thoughts and vision will aways remain with me forever and this is a subject I would always keep my search on for valid and rational arguments…May be one day when I meet him in other world, I would win by giving him an argument he would have no counter argument for …Till then enjoy your journey Manoj as I do here …your meeting me in this plane was momentous!

~ Life's Giggles...~

 “So, what was the most Giggling moment of your life today?” – this is the primordial Question that I often ask kids when I meet them – be whatever time of the day or night it is – this has to be asked to start a valid conversation!

Kids being kids, Many a time I get a story of sorts about what happy moments they have lived in a day – be it in school, home or park or college…most of the time I hear all sorts of stories and parables from them which made their day and made them laugh.

If the answer is “Nothing / No” – I cheekily put forward another question “Ah! Life was too serious today …hah! 😊!” – Kidds are all smiles then…

For me there could be no such moment in a day which life offers you and you don’t smile or make you happy – it could be as foolish for people as you wearing different pair socks or shoes to schools and inadvertently notice when you reach the premise – you will laugh on your own self on this folly and you nailed the moment as a mark of true remembrance in your life to come – may be to store in your memory to be refurbished in times to come for your kids or younger ones!

In today’s world of hard core competitiveness and comparison – everyone is trying hard to exist to his optimum – chasing never ending dreams and aspire to get something better and best than what they already have – The journey begins with kids as they are groomed to do their best  and obtain good percentiles in schools and competitive exams – parenting is tough but we all are giving our baggage of failure to them – what we could not achieve, we want them to achieve – for what? ..just to satisfy your own ego and tell the world that you have arrived!

In doing so kids are at the receiving end, see for yourself the cases of depression, suicides and other mental issues kids are facing – in schools, the most sought after teacher for parents is not of Math's / Physics / Chemistry or Economics but of ‘Counsellor” – parents are seeing psychiatric help for their kids in school as they face mental and behavioral issues on day to day basis…the peer and parental pressure alike, kids are turning nerds and stale – often forgetting that life is to be laughed , lived and enjoyed in its journey and not merely be lived with seriousness all the time!

My experiment with kids have been successful so far as whenever I meet kids, they are always grinning and ready to tell their best moments of the day – they have certainly become conscious of the fact the laughter is the best medicine for any sort of depression and tension – once you are in a good mental health, your acts will make things fall in place…

So start doing it – test it yourself and ask your kid this Golden question “What was the most funny moment of the day you lived?” – see the smile on your kids face …resplendent with story about to be told….See for yourself how you turn your kids to a better human being ready to take life’s challenges with equal force as life throws at them everyday….!!!

Celebrate Life...

 I often read on many obituaries “Untimely demise of …."

I question myself, who is deciding the time of our departure? How can we? are we capable enough to do so or to begin with did you choose the time to get born?

Were your parents were thinking of you when they were in the 'Act'? These are questions that comes through deep thought or may be just by observing and thinking at a different tangent!

Just the other day , I heard about a far off acquaintance who left for his heavily abode - ( sometimes I too think that there must NOT be any Hell , as I have not seen anybody writing or going there :) ) - the discussion amongst our peer groups started with a melancholic note - Mr X was a good human being , why did God did this to him - he has a small kid and a family to fend - old parents and all sorts of responsibilities - a home loan and what not. 

My only question to them was - Can you stop your death? - if tomorrow something happens to you, do you have in your control that you can say NO to the happening?  Gods’ plans are 'perfect' and 'Timely' - you cannot predict the accuracy of a particular soul's departure - yes, it is a huge upsetting emotional trauma if one goes from one's life - unannounced or just like that - but again it was all part and parcel of his time and destiny that he had to be in your life for that very time and years.

As Osho always said " Rejoice Life, Why Sulk and wait for your death??" - Live as if there would be NO tomorrow and that you won’t get up the next morning to see the sunrise! - In this percept, you will start to live more deeply and with consciousness - with remembrance of GOD and someone who is channelizing this Universe!

In this short span of your living, live to the best of your abilities and performances - live each day as there would be No tomorrow - you will not rise from the Bed - this way, you will see that you have aligned yourself to what universe has decided for your and that is - just live to the optimum and be Happy! 

Why sulk for things that are beyond your comprehension and control - you can’t change the situation - example 'Death' it is harsh reality and we all have to leave our near and dear ones one fine day - but what have we doing till the time we are alive? , are we thanking his presence and his gift of life as human being - most of us would say "NO" - Start doing it - offer your gratitude towards HIS grace and you will see your life changing - you will be better off many people who Death would choose soon -

Your obituary should speak about how you have Celebrated your life and how you have touched life of people around you and what a human being you were...!!!

God , Freewill , Karma?

 The tussle is between ‘Karma’ and ‘ God’s Will’ or ‘Your Free Will’ – Who will win?

The topic was deep dived with my recent engagements with a priest of a temple I visited recently – his bend of mind obviously was towards ‘Gods Will’ as by virtue of profession he was in – continuously sitting 2X7 in front of God’s idol and sometimes meditating on his mantras and form!

As I put my argument in front of this octogenarian, “ I worked hard and got what I wanted – that was my free will – Had I not worked hard, how would it be possible to achieve what I have?”

The priest’s answer was unequivocal: “ May work hard with great free will But still not able to achieve what they want?, where is the concept of free will then?”

Point taken, but then the counterargument followed immediately “That was their Karma too, they were not destined to get what they ought for! – their karma was not good enough to have the fruits in this life!”

His cheeky smile made me think that he was obviously thinking my arguments as ‘Kiddish” or lack of knowledge – he was born 20 years earlier than me and so might have much knowledge of the world and their working.

He quickly followed with another great example “ People come to this temple with all sort of problems, I listen to every problem and pray on their behalf, you will be astonished to know about the miracles of prayer and ‘Gods Will” – you only have to fall at his feet and ‘Submit’ your ego and knowledge Infront of him and see how he shapes your destiny and Your life!

This was something quite cerebral for me to digest – for sure I knew there exists some ‘Great existential power’ in this universe who is channelizing and governing this world on certain precepts! – He surely is omnipresent in every aspect.

 But still the question from my side was partially answered “ If everything is Governed by HIM and his grace, the why are we trying so much and running around with our aspirations and fluid expectations – many of which don’t get materialized and then melancholy follows!”

His percept was candid clear and quoted Bhagwat Gita – a rule book of life – in which Lord Krishna spells his divine wisdom “ You only have the power to act according to your knowledge and sphere of influence – the end results of your action and Karma is in my hand and NOT yours!”

Your Karma’s from previous life play here and it is also Karma from this life which is in activation – it is a grandeur mix of both these that will bring froth the situation and scenarios you are currently in!

Though you have to live your Karma But you also have to fall at HIS feet for forgiveness for any bad karma which you have done knowingly or unknowingly – the ball is always in HIS court, he might give you according to your aspiration or he might not – you cannot challenge his decision!”

So finally, after arguments and counter arguments, I could only decipher one thing which forms assimilation of this verbiage “Keep on doing your good karma > Without any expectations > knowing fully well that there is some Mighty “Great” who is watching your acts of benevolence and your day to day behaviour towards others ..The story and concept of living life ends here….. 

~ From Kid to a Man ~

 I have seen him in arms to a grow up in adolescence – how life changes and time flies, really.!

Kashiv was the name his father, a general grocer I my vicinity, had given him happily and how as a first born ‘Son’ was rejoiced by his father, distributing sweets to the entire clan which he knew and also who’s who came to his shop!

Now as years have passed, Kashiv turned 21 and today as I saw him after a long time, I made him remind the very day when I ate sweets when he was born 😊 – his cheeky smile was a reminiscent past of his reaching this stage of his life – as his father stood by – still working and getting up at 5 a.m to open his shop which has been an integral part of father and son journey.

Today, the day came when his father again spoke to me about a prospective match, he was seeking to get kashiv married and relieve him of his duties – a typical household mentality in India of every parent.

“The boy is settled in his own might and has finished his graduation and MBA and is working in a company!” – the proudness in his father’s voice was apparent and came from a man who didn’t study beyond class 8^th !

“Sir, I could not study as I lost my father early in life when we came from my native village in Bihar – I had an uneducated mother and two sisters to take care of – being the only Eldest sibling and a Son, I was tasked to run the show!”

“Though life treated me little differently, and I have not much regret, I vowed upon myself to make my children educated and achieve great heights!

The words were surely brewing with wisdom and I guess almost all the father’s in this world would share more or less the same thoughts and sentiments, and it must be, as what more great than a son bypassing his father’s achievements and making him proud!

As we were discussing things, Kashiv came and tried to change the topic, which generally kids do as he wanted to start his career in ‘Corporate world’ and make a mark for himself!

Getting back after my buy, I started to reminisce the life of father, son duo and how time subtly changes, seep by seep, day by day until we as parents realize that you have a handsome hunk and a beautiful damsel standing in front of you as your son or daughter, ready to take on the world and materialize your dreams which you could not due to unforeseen circumstances beyond your reach!

Life is such for everyone, and that is the beauty of time…waiting for Kashiv to get married but also achieve his dreams which he has so rightly thought so!

~ Life is Beautiful ~

 ‘Life is beautiful…Jiyo Dil se!” – the laugh that followed is a lifetime remembrance- It was surprise as It came from a man which apparently was a villager and of little means!

Everyone has a different percept of life and one is living as according to his beliefs and aspirations, I thought and moved ahead – it was a short stint with a man who I met on a recent excursion in the hills.

Damodaran he loved to call himself and he is a villager and has never travelled in a Car – if he does so, It would be an achievement – again, thinking so , I realised that there are people in this world with little ambitions. 

To fend himself, Damodaran makes ‘Lemon Water’  or Neemboo Pani as people call it in local dialect and thus makes a ‘Decent Living’ – as it was a chance encounter, the heat and humidity accompanied me and made me exhausted – Call it a meeting which was destined to happen and it do so at the right time – Damodar had a bad habit as I could sense and Smell – he had made a Morning Drink for himself – probably a peg as I vividly thought so.

The smell was apparent and staunch and it led me to talk to Damodaran with a whimsical smile back as I asked “ Sir, Subhay – Subhay hi chadda li 😊?, Din tak to ruk jatte !” { Sir, You had a drink in the morning 😊 , could have waited till afternoon at least!}

Hearing this he laughed like anything as there was nothing beyond that – I just left his gist about his laughing from heart – he surely has life a very observant life, as I thought – he matched my thoughts as if it was some kind of frequency match and thus spoke “ Zindagi mein aish karo, kal ka pata nahi – jo mann karta hai karke jao – kal kya baankar aauge wapis is duniya mein, kisko pata!”  { Life is uncertain and whatever you need to do , do it right away and don’t procrastinate – don’t know when, where and as what you would be born again, Who knows ?”}

Hearing these words of wisdom was so in line with my percept of Damodar – he was a man of wisdom – though he didn’t seem much educated and all his life, he had lived in his village and had hardly moved out to town – his simplicity and knowledge of life was remarkable. 

The talk deserved another Neembu Pani {Lemon water} and as I ordered so, he was quick to prepare one with much enthusiasm, alongwith he started to ask me about my whereabouts – what you do and where you work – much of it was sort of over head transmission for him, as I could sense his reaction to my answers.

The second Neembu pani was much tastier 😊 – don’t know why, but maybe Damodar had accepted me as a friend now 😊 – as I paid him and started my journey, we exchanged an open ended goodbyes – “open ended” because, you never know what is store for us – we may meet again in sometime, which both of us wish so – till then ..let seconds pass…

~ And WE Met Again ~

He withholds the test of time – his age and maturity is beyond comparison – just 4 years back when I met him, he looked the same and this time I see him in the same dimension – Alas! , somethings don’t change for good.

Raghu has been selling Tea and local snacks for most of his life – he lives on a plateau covered with lush greenery and to the amazement of everyone, always blessed with pleasantness of weather – the western ghats are truly accommodative to rains in much of the year.

Treading the western ghats with slush and slippery terrain, you can reach his small makeshift shop – He will always be present with his welcoming smile and asking you that medieval question “ Sir Chai?” [ Sir Tea?] – this time I met him after a gap and as a natural human tendency he didn’t recognize me, but thanks to rage of Camera Phones, an old pic gelled the bond – instantly a loud laugh made its way between both of us !

Life is so funny sometimes, you meet strangers and develop a sense of intangible bond and you want to capture those finetuned moments that one can remember back home – seeing the pics and living the moment again and again – this was once such occasion.

I asked him to make ‘Kadak Chai’ [ Strong Tea] for me as a mark of remembrance of this meeting – he readily agreed and offered me a place to sit – it was nothing more than a finetuned rock covered with a neatly labelled cloth – as the meeting progressed, we exchanged pleasantries as now that he had recognized me Suo moto on the basis of last trip’s pictures.

I keenly observed his aura and found he had not changed at all – Raghu was the same man I had met four years back – the only change was his salt and pepper look – his hair was greyed and he had grown and dense beard – his tone and calm and welcoming demeanor was the same! 

As I enquired about his family , I vividly remembered about his two daughters that he had told me last time – both of them were now in local college! – the adage “Girls grow fast!” had again proved itself!

AS I again asked him “What about your wife?, does she not come here to help you?”

With a comatose smile, Raghu answered “ No sir, Who will look after the girls then!, I stay here for whole week and then close my shop on Sunday and go and meet them in the town!”, a routine that Raghu has followed since he got married.

“Sir, Kamana bhi toh hai!, Ghar kaise chalega agar kaam nahi karenge!” – that was the responsibility almost All of us shoulder in tandem – The living and character of World remains the same wherever you go – it is the essence of human  Nature.

“Raghu, aap chai mast banatey ho!,”[Raghu you make fabulous tea!], as I prodded after having my first sip – in reciprocity, he laughed gently – a general talk regarding customer footfall and business followed – Raghu was happy in his life and always paid his obeisance  to the almighty – indeed, I knew him to be a God fearing man, a point which was proved by the pictures of Gods he had in his shop.

After a brief stoppage, it was certainly time to say a “Goodbye” , until destiny would meet us again – As a token of respect for each other, pleasantries were exchanged and a friend hug culminated this meeting….{don’t worry, I paid him too for my tea cuppa 😊}.

Thanks Raghu for the sumptuous cup of Tea that you always make with all your love – hope to have it again, don’t know when though – but for sure before we say goodbye to this world, hopefully things would have progressed in your life till then….and you would have a different story to tell!!

~ Life's 'Other' Plans... ~

So What is it that you want to control in your life? , you want things ‘Your Way’ – your career, your family and friends, your wife, kids and what not?, but as you grow old you will recognize one fact – “ You cannot control your life!” – the sooner you admit to this sense of wisdom, the better – life will turn beautiful and chasing a chimera of dreams and getting heartbroken would be less!

The Occurrence of events in this world is phenomenal, consider the latest devastation – AIR India plane crash that took lives of innocent people who were oblivious of things which they themselves could not decipher – happy souls going to London, sashaying an ostentatious goodbye to the loved one’s minutes before…and then the tragedy stuck – doom prevailed and people get vapourized! 

No one could decipher what was coming towards them just minutes before – else who would have boarded the plane if they were deemed to be so clairvoyant – that truly is a live example and a remembrance to the fact that , we control nothing in this universe, leave alone our lives.

As the Vedic wisdom trolls, you are just living life as per your ‘Karma’ and ‘Destiny’ which was bestowed to you due to your past livings and ‘Prarabh Karmas’ – the time you are born, your family, situations and various scenarios, your success and failures, struggles, friends and foes, everything – almost everything is pre planned.

Yet, rationalists will strongly argue the concept of ‘Free Will’ – of course in between the jingle of life that you are living, you will always apply your thoughts and do your actions according to your own will and understanding – no one would stop you to do it, for sure, but the outcome again would be subjected to different parameters and not your saying!

Coming back to the tragic Air India Plane Crash that unfortunately happened in Ahmedabad, there were some success stories too – as they say “ Every Cloud has a Silver lining!” – the idiom testified itself – consider the case of Vishwas Ramesh Kumar who was the lone survivor of this tragedy, When asked how did this happen, he was in a state of shock and simply replied “I don’t Know!” – a Godly miracle has saved him out of the blue and none other of the ill fated plane – was he destined to live – now that we have a conclusion, the answer is ‘YES’ while others had to GO ….that is the only human explanation one can soothe oneself from.

Also, sometimes your failures turn out to be a case of success! – what else can proved beyond doubt about another case – Ms. Bhoomi Chauhan, who missed her Air India flight by 10 minutes due to traffic – her innumerable pleads has no ears and she was not allowed to board the ill fated flight – again – the grand design had other plans for her and now that she recognizes this fact!

Summing up, Nature or Grand design, whatever you love to call has always plans for you – each and every minute you live is being controlled and gauged by a higher authority – we as puppets are clever enough to make our own plans, trying to defy the greater good – living consciously and with a sense of hourly gratitude towards what we have been bestowed up will tread this path called life with ease and purpose – till then , let destiny happen for all of us…Amen!

" Nothing is Pending"

 Only until you reach the last day of your life that you may spell these golden lines " Nothing is Pending!" …. 

Was just sitting with an Octogenarian who I know for quite some time now and the best communication one can have with such souls is about Life itself, coz they are a treasure trove of life's ups and downs and full of experiences about their successes and failures.

'Rehman' Saab as we all address him, has been a man of his own stature - he sells seasonal fruits in a local market near my place and is always a talk of the town - as he has a unique communiqué of selling his fruits - for him , he is a 'Free Bird" with NO responsibilities and for him life has been a beautiful ride which bestowed upon him goodies and bad times in equal measure. His two sons and two daughters are well "Settled" in their respective household and that he lost his beloved wife just last year due to age related problems.

As I asked him " What is your age Rehman -Ji"?"

"Babu , 75 saal ka ho gaya hoon is Saal, uski Rehmat Se!" { Sir, I have turned 75 odd years this year, By his Grace!}

As I laughed and popped up another timely question " Aur kitna jeene ke Khwaish hai?" { How much more you long to live?"

"Arre Kal utha lo, kuch nahi raha , sara kaam khatam kar diya life mein, sari zimmedari nibha li!" { If God May call me tommrow, I am better off as I have fulfilled my family Responsibilities!"}

Rehman ji, is living a dream life, he is self sufficient and is still able bodied and is not dependent on his children for his livelihood - he is proud of this fact - As I further conversed with him , he started to talk about the living Wisdom of life.

It was a crowded flea market where people flock to buy Vegetables, fruits and the sundry, Rehman is a keen observer and talks of his wisdom.

"Yeh jo sare log bhaag rahe hain na, ek din thakk ke chup karke baith jayenge….fir sochenge , itne bhagne ki kya zaroorat thi zindagi mein?" { These people which I see are running around and trying to make ends meet, one day they will exert themselves and then will sit down and ponder about life and that was it all the effort to run around in life for frivolous things?}

As I grimaced in affirmative , I was equally reciprocated by Rehman, I surely knew , I had a man standing in front of me who chuckles about people's life and their follies...

This small 2 minute talk made me ponder over this one life which he stated " Nothing is Pending!" - this thought had a deep meaning for me - as I wonder when that time would come for All of us to say this …

The hush - hush and running around will stop one day, even if you want it or no, Our bodies will wither and with each passing day and a click of a second, we are nearing our last time on this planet...but the race is between time and our responsibilities.

Surely , Rehman has beaten time and has made himself available to be taken back to heaven as and when his time comes, for he has 'Nothing Pending or unfulfilled desire or a Wish which is a leftover for him..", In a true sense, he is a Man of Acceptance of life who internally laughs on all of us running around to chase our grandeur dreams and Aspirations...most of which we have to leave , even if we conquer them... for this is the vicissitude of life ….

{N.B.: Rehman-ji , allowed me to click his 1 picture on special request, though he is not very interested to be published on the internet, when I spoke so regarding this fact! :) }

~ You always Want More...~

 So you want more, but don't you have enough ? - these lines made a tinge in my mind as much of it was true ! 

We all are living with a dichotomy of living a grandeur life by wanting more , loosing the streak of what we already have - we hardly recognize these special gifts which are just around. We don't love ourselves, our bodies - we all are able bodied but how many of us revere it? - ask a soul who was born blind or has lost hands or legs due to an unfortunate accident. All of our goodies are taken for granted and we hardly value our able bodied- ness. 

The best state of living is to honour each and every second of your life - we are not living consciously - and for most of the time we are in a rush to achieve the chimera of aspirations - the mind is playing clever games but it is his nature - it will throw vagaries of thoughts which will bombard your conscience every now and then - this makes us oblivious of the 'Haves' we have in our lives and rather start to focus on the 'Have-Nots'!

My sojourn to the hills this time was full of talking with people who were climbing with great difficulty - many of us were part of the middle of age crisis and had started to have age related problems - a common regret we all shared was , " Why we didn't took care of our bodies when we were alright?" , " We ate anything and everything and at anytime of day or night and that now that our bodies have started to wither, our old habits die hard!"

We could  a little envy with our peers who were of our age and were walking with ease, and with a glowing smile , observing their demeanor, we all could decipher that they have had a very meaningful and disciplined life - for their body was a testament to their decree of fitness.

We All have a human tendency of neglecting what we have, once our body was our best friend and we hardly took care of it, now that it has started to age and show signs of weariness, we are complaining!

Similarly, all that we have got in our life - our parents, friends , buddies, brothers, sisters and education, career is ephemeral and for sure internally we all know this hard fact - still the wild chase is on! 

See our living rooms , wardrobes, clutter around us, we are all gathering , be it thoughts, junk info or anything we love and like for a second, we buy it and keep it in our safehouses to be left their to rot or be a part of the junk itinerary - as the famous saying goes " Whatever you have not worn, used for 6 months will never be used!" , Still the hoarding philosophy rules our mind and we don't have enough of it!

We will never have enough in our lives and as times skips away second by second, we will one day realize our follies to have lived live in harmony and with much awareness and not have set realistic targets which would not give us happiness that we so eagerly aspire for....

Still you have time, live consciously and start to part ways with items, thoughts and many such things that have filled your consciousness till the brim, for the burden was your making. And t is you who has to get rid of it....see what you feel post doing so....!

~ Rejoice Your Failure ~

 Nothing is greater than 'LIFE' as it is the only pretext your living - problems will come and go but your zeal and continuous aim to do something or other will  make you walking unknown paths.

There would be numerous Big defeats and small wins too , something in you will make you stand again and start afresh. There are numerous such examples where people have turned exceptional with failures, I want to quote some examples here to prove my point.

In today's world of cut throat competition and where students have taken 'suicide' as a route to escapism, I see people enjoying their failures - In recent such example I came across parents who were enjoying with their son who had 'flunked' the Class 10 / higher secondary exams - they were rejoicing because they know the hard truth about life and that is , Life doesn't limit itself to exam results! 

The picture of parents boasting of their son's 'Exceptional Feat' has stormed the internet - at a time when students are ending their life as they didn't clear prestigious IIT / NEET exams , as if they wont be able to do anything in life other than being a 'Cyber Clerk' {as I call software engineer's} and doctors!

As the boy's parents say ' It was disappointing result But you have NOT failed in life, It always give's other chance!" - Though the boy's friends made fun of him and even mocked him for flunking the exams - in all the subjects , his parents were rock solid support for him - as for them this is also not a mean feat! :)  - Why not, this has become a life solving problem for many students who are not much academically strong and are average students - not securing 90+% in exams and securing seat in prestigious colleges wont be an end of life and it should not be! - As I write this ,  "Kudos" to such parents who are standing behind this achievement, what the school had to teach - "the art of accepting and handling failures', parents very neatly did this job and proved a great example to the society!

Another instance I would like to quote is from a prestigious school from Delhi, as the exams results for senior secondary school exams were out , I could see the flashy numbers which the school website had displayed to boast about their academic excellence - almost everyone got more than 90% marks except one - out of heard of high scorers , here was a humble name who had scored in mid 50%'s and that made him so unique - my eyes were scrolling though top performers But stopped at this unique boy's name who proved himself different!  

Suicide wont give life another chance  - you can change your defeats to wins but for that you need to give life another shot - today i write this with somber mood as i know a child who is not in this world because she did not got the result according to her aspirations, rather I would say her parents aspirations - what is life now in those parents life who might have pressurized their only daughter to become a doctor or something exceptional which they themselves were not !

Life is beautiful and consider it to be a batsman standing on the pitch getting bouncer's but you need just one bad ball to hit a Six ! - for me, this has been an idiom which I have lived by and preach - for our motto in life is toe enjoy defeats too and when you that loose Ball comes , come out with flying colours!